I remember growing up and being soooo little and trying to make my boobs look big. I was as flat as any boy, because I was like 8, but I thought if I sucked in my stomach and popped my ribs out - well, I thought my ribs looked like boobs. So weird. But all the celebs, and even in cartoons, they all had boobies... and why didn't I have any? I know I am not alone here, me and my best friend growing up used to do this all the time.
And then we grow up, and we actually get real boobies. And it is the worst thing that could ever happen to us. There are MONTHS of self consciousness and attempts to conceal them in every way imaginable (I think I wore a vest every day for at least 6 months). But the thing is, is that boobs change for s really long time. You might think you are okay with your boobs one day, and then the next they have grown an entire cup size. I swear that my boobs exploded from an A.. which I was for a really long time.. to a D overnight. It was out of control and I hated it. I hated it for so long. I never wore anything that showed off my boobs. I was so jealous of anyone that COULD do that.. I just dreamed of breast reductions and minimizing bras. My boobs, which are just one part of an entire body, made me feel unsexy.
And that is the problem. We feel really bad about our boobs. But over the years I have grown into this person who can look REALLY objectively at herself. And this has helped me so much to realize that my boobs, well, they are fabulous. And that YOUR boobs are fabulous. And that, no boob is perfect. The boobs we see on celebrities or in porn - well most of the time those are real, so that isn't a very fair way to judge your own set. You get what you get, so why not be happy with them? BOYS LOVE BOOBS. Pretty much any boobs. So why wouldn't you love your own?
See, when I said "love your boobs, love yourself I understand that that miiiight be a little bit of a stretch. But you can apply it to anything. Your nose, your chin, your legs, your butt, etc... If you have a problem with that body part - you will never be able to love it. Even if you work out madly or get plastic surgery, you will never be happy.. because you will never be able to look at yourself and say "My legs, they might not look like Miley Cyrus's but they are MY legs, and they are beautiful." Self love doesn't come from being "perfect".. self love comes from being able to look at yourself and appreciate everything your body does for you, and how unique it is to you. And that is something that really is special, why would you ever want to trade that?
I swear, and this is PURELY anecdotal. But I swear that when you reach the point where you can look at your least favourite body parts, like me and my boobs, and appreciate them and how wonderful they are - you will stop obsessing and you will get this insane confidence that is just so magnetic. Maybe before you thought you were unsexy because you had crappy boobs that were crap, but maybe it was just because you carried yourself in this unconfident way. You can't expect other people to love you if you aren't even able to love yourself - right? Confidence is sexy. Just like every body is sexy, if you let it be.
And there will be times where we are definitely going to feel unconfident and unsure about something in our body, but that doesn't mean YOU need to feel unconfident about who you are. As Dr. Seuss would say: “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” That really is something so special, that we all need to cherish. Stop trying to be someone else, when you could be YOU.
Screw flaws and self doubt! We are all beautiful.