Good shit, bad shit, funny shit, annoying shit, weird shit, accidental shit, sad shit, happy shit, and together these all lead up to one thing: life changing shit.
So I am here to just give some tips on how to come back from some of the shit that brings us down. It is simple stuff, really, learned through trials and tribulations.
Life is hard. Whoever said it was easy can just go ahead and slap themselves in the face because they are the luckiest person in the world. Man, we have to work hard at it! Growing up is a bunch of reality checks that often just slap you in the face. We all have these dreams as children, wild and crazy dreams, and as we grow up we realize that some of these dreams just aren't so possible. And that sucks. So we have learned this mechanism that we PUSH AWAY reality.
When something bad happens, it is so easy to justify it. Sometimes this means fabricating details, and maybe lying to yourself a bit about it. Or even it means forgetting it. This is a widely used coping mechanism, but I believe that it is truly short term. You are only saving yourself from the present hurt - and you are just building up these repressed feelings that will get in the way of you growing into your future self. As hard as it is, we need to take a hard look at all the shit that happens. It sucks. But it is amazing to do, because there is no more lying to yourself.
Trust me. I have been through things, and some things could have been really easy to get over - but instead of facing the truth, I lied to myself.. And in the end you get caught up in these lies and you distance yourself from reality and you lose yourself. So I have learned that I need to face my problems head first - the past doesn't define you. It gives you the opportunity to define yourself which is a whole lot more powerful!
And let me just say this:
You can hear advice over and over. And you can rant to your friends and get loads of advice... But in the end, it is up to YOU to move on and heal yourself. You can rely on friends for support, but you can't rely on them to fix you. Healing yourself is a personal thing - and you have to be ready to do this. You have to be ready to say goodbye to the past and those feelings of "what if" and "i hope". No one can do that for you, only you can.
Trust me. It gets better. It always gets better. You have the amazing ability to make it get better faster.
The ball is always in your court. Only you have the power to face reality and to cope and move on. You have the power to heal yourself. But most importantly - you have the power to define yourself. It does not matter what your reputation is or how your past makes you seem if you know who you are. If you love you, believe me, it won't even matter if no one else does.
Find yourself by finding reality.