Way back in the 60's, The Beatles posed a good question, one that people are still asking today.. "All the lonely people, where do they all come from? All the lonely people, where do they all belong?" It is a great question, one I don't exactly have an answer for, but I do have some thoughts on.
I know that so many of my friends would agree with me when I say this: I feel so lonely, so much of the time, and yet - I am rarely alone. I spend so much time with friends and family, and yet, there is a part of me that always feels so tragically alone.
There is just something so broken and alone in us.
I think, really, this is evolutionary. We are made to mate. Really now. So what I think this means in today's society, a society where we are delaying mating and relationships in place of education and career, is that no matter how fulfilling our endeavors are, there is a part of our evolutionary selves that is missing.
And yet, we AREN'T ready for all that. I honestly believe that, too. I am not just saying it to make a point. I cannot possibly imagine getting married and having kids for yearssssss. Boys my age definitely aren't ready. And yet, I am longing for something more than what I have. I don't think I have a choice to feel any different either. I am not exactly complaining, it just, sucks.
I don't want to be in a relationship because I'm lonely, I want to be in one when I am ready. I feel like so many people become stuck for this very reason, and it is really sad to see.
But as mama and papa bear would say:
"it is better to be lonely and single, than to be lonely and in a relationship."